Real Love ..By Nicole

for me the most important is love.not gold,not diamont,not money and most of all not any treasure,you will not be happy bcoz you have that all,money can buy all,but good friends good partners in life noooooooooo,you cannot buy that,bcoz god send you that in the right time and in the right place,the most important is how to treasure them and give them true and honnest love,bcoz what ever happened they always there for you in richer and in poor,its so hard that one day when we realize that the person we love is gone and leave us,bcoz we not give them time,love and respect,so happy to love and to have love without any condition,heart cannot fix if they feel so much pain,we are not fairy that we can heal the painful heart like in the fairytails,i wish to all that if god give us a second time to love,just love them and feel for them how much important them to us,and give all your love to them without any condition and love them with all your heart and soul,im not believe that we can feel love bcoz we see the person have a good and sexy body or beauty face or handsome face,its not important,the most important is what is in your heart,its not important if you are not rich,its not important if you are graduated or not,its not important if you are not smart,its not important if your age is too young or older than your love,they say age does'nt matter..in true love no rich no poor,in true love no smart no illiterate,in true love no beauty no ugly,the most important is how to give them real and true love,even distance cannot stop our heart to love and to feel inlove,so just care for your love and feel to them that you always there to comfort them,so simple to say we care and we worried to your love,but the question is if thats worried is true????bcoz if we accept our partner in our life or if we go in a relation,we need to prove it that the person we love is real part of our life,in a simple words,we can feel for them how much we care for them,but if not that is not true love,love cannot pay,love is not for play,love is not lie,love is not selfish,love is give and take,so many question in our heart that we cannot answer,but the true so happy to have a good partner in life forever!so scared and lonely to be older alone just find love that he and she will stay to you until the last beat of your heart,so happy to have loving and caring partner that when you feel alone and you need a shoulder to cry,she or he is always there for you to comfort you and give you a srtong heart,tears will fade away if your love is there for you!!!love your partner like he loves you, just remember if you say I LOVE YOU its come from the botton of your heat.... 

Commitment

“Will you spend the rest of your life with me, honey?” is a proposition that might send shivers down your spine. If it doesn’t, you’re probably not the least bit commitment phobic. However, commitment phobia is a phenomenon on the rise! Not only do Casanovas and aspiring philanderers dread the very notion of committed relationships, but the eerie sensation has been crawling up the women’s sleeve too. No doubt, the modern era has observed drastic changes in societal values. Are relationships losing their meaning? Do commitment issues ring the death knell for romance and perhaps, even marriage? Fear of committing is made justifiable through several psychological factors, but can be tactfully dealt with. Many prefer to eliminate the word ‘commitment’ from their dictionary since to them; it is a frightening amalgamation of promise and responsibility. Commitment phobic individuals are often bi-polar and hide their feelings behind the veil of security and the possibility of heartbreak. Delve deeper into the causes, signs and remedies of commitment issues in men and women.

Causes

 Bad Childhood Experiences

Everybody’s childhood greatly influences one’s mindset and behavioral pattern. When a child witnesses his parents constantly at each other’s throats, he or she is likely to distrust the concept of commitment. Abusive relationships and instances of violence tend to have a nasty impact on children who inevitably harbor poor opinions of marriage and would rather spare themselves the repercussions of failed commitments.

 The First Cut Is The Deepest

Once bruised by love, healing takes a long time. For many, the first break-up is tormenting and they run away from future prospects of love in order to evade the brutal consequences that could follow. Cheating or bad fallout fuels a sensitive being’s resolution to not fall in the throes of love.  

 Fear Of Losing Freedom

Freedom is the essence of some people’s living. Without it, they’d rather face death. A career minded woman would loath the mere suggestion of giving up her job to perform the domestic chores dictated by a demanding husband. Similarly, a man prefers his own space, his liberty to step in and out of his abode whenever he desires. The possibility of being constantly hounded and hen-pecked by wife is foreboding and provides adequate incentive to stay single.

 Signs That A Man Is Commitment Phobic

• A vast history of short relationships is a strong indication that the man fears commitment and is escaping from the conventional expectation to settle down and raise children. Moreover, a vulnerability to infidelity is generally another sign of commitment phobia.

• Is he unbelievingly charming? Does he sweep almost every attractive woman off her pretty feet? Don’t be deceived by his romantic gestures as the man is probably luring you to the bedroom with his magnetism. Chances are he will run away the next morning and sniff out for a new target.  

• While he savors the sweet adrenaline rush of the chase, he ebbs away from the kill. In other words, he derives immense pleasure in the playground romance and sex but when it comes down the serious relationship, embrace yourself for some clichéd excuses.

• You will soon grow enraged with his incessant unavailability and inaccessibility. You can never contact the person when you want to! Also, the person never justifies his lack of accessibility and only dials your number only when it suits him best.  

• If he has never invited you to his home, you ought to doubt his sincerity in the relationship. His home might be ravishing and yet he may not fancy the idea of you scrutinizing his peculiar living arrangements. He possibly wants to keep a low profile and not juxtapose his internal surroundings with elements from the outside world.

• The word “forever” petrifies men to no end.  

Signs That A Woman Is Commitment Phobic

• A woman behaves erratically when there are a hundred and one thought conflicts in her head. She might back out of a date last minute which could mean that she has been having second thoughts. Hopping from one career stream or course to another is a strong indication that the woman has issues with commitment, whether it is a man or her professional career!      

• Just like with the men, embarking a string of very brief relationships exudes symptoms of commitment phobia.

• Is she unusually elusive and cold? Does she dismiss every single cue to share her feelings? Perhaps, her low threshold for pain and trust deters her from opening up to people. Failed relationships in the past scare her from venturing into newer pastures.

• If she chooses work and friends over relationships every time, it hints towards a thriving fear of commitment.

Now that you have virtually dissected the nub of commitment issues, hope you will be able to sense them and tactfully rectify the damage that ensues.  

TRUE LOVE...........

Hello!!!

When you answer the phone,

You say, Hello....

Do you know what is the real meaning of Hello ???
It is the name of a girl !!!

YES !!!

And do you know who is that girl ??
Margaret Hello ...

She was the girlfriend of Graham Bell who invented telephone....

One can forget the name of Graham Bell

But not his girlfriend,

That is love !!!

Love..Wat it is??

I don't pretend to know what love is for everyone,but i can tell u what it is for me.Love is knowing everything about someone,and still wanting to be with them more than any other person.Love is trusting them enough to tell everything about yourself,including the things u might be ashamed of.Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone,but still get weak knees when they come n smile at u..

Incomplete Love......................

Avinash was very happy that he got a job in Techworld International a reputed IT outsourcing company and it was a good job with a decent pay packet and other facilities. He was an eligible bachelor who didn't have any past in terms of relationships and he was desperately waiting for the girl divine. A few days into his new job and he came across the HRM named Anuradha. He knew instantly that it was true love and Anuradha was the one he had waited for all his years.

Being good looking, matured, earning and with a great sense of humour, it was not difficult for him to serenade the object of his affection. Soon the two started dating and an intense romance followed. Another two years went by and the two tied the knot with their parental consent. A long and memorable honeymoon in the Alps was something they both have planned for and they were delighted to see their plans getting fulfilled. In fact life was bliss till the mighty recession hit the world.

Avinash struggled to retain his job and finally lost it whereas Anuradha also relocated to another company which was far from their house. Initially Avinash was quiet confident of lapping up a job at the drop of a hat but soon the realization dawned on him that talent was not the only requisite for getting employment and he started getting impatient. Anuradha was working harder than ever to earn more and keep the flame burning in the kitchen. Somehow, Avinash managed to get a job at a lesser salary in a nearby company and started working really hard to support Anuradha.

They were devoted to each other and had no egos or rules that were imposed on the other partner. Every evening when Anuradha used to come home, Avinash used to serve her coffee and used to massage her feet, sometimes oil her hair and used to try and do anything to make her comfortable and relaxed after a hard day's work. Soon it used to be dinner time and after dinner Avinash used to leave for work as he worked in the night shifts. In the morning Anuradha used to get the breakfast ready for Avinash as he returned from work and she too used to try and do things to make Avinash happy though she had very little time as her office cab used to arrive very early because she had to travel a long distance to work.

Slowly the two started spending lesser and lesser time together. On weekdays, there was hardly any time apart from the few moments that they spent in the evenings and sometimes Avinash even worked on Sunday and other holidays to get in that extra bit of money and that meant no time together. Anuradha had a very good friend at workplace who used to travel together in the office cab too. He was really a fun loving person and Anuradha got along pretty well with him. Since they both worked together and shared the same timings this friendship only got stronger and special by the day. They used to talk for hours and hours after work as Anuradha was more or less alone at home. Sometimes they even went out on trips and shopping sprees together because Avinash had no time to be with her. Even if he was home on weekends, he used to sleep off most of the day and only Sudhir (the friend) used to give company to Anuradha.

Sudhir was good looking, rich and single and he treated Anuradha very specially. Anuradha didn't even realize when Sudhir became an integral part of her routine and now it was impossible for her to even stay without talking to him for a day or meeting him on the weekends. Avinash also realized this but he trusted his wife and knew that she spent time with Sudhir just because she feels lonely at home and Avinash was not able to provide her time for outings. He had complete faith in her and was sure that Anuradha won't cross the limits of friendship. One day Anuradha and Sudhir went for a long drive and Sudhir just refused to take a u turn. After a few hours of drive they reached Nainital and once reaching there, Sudhir declared that he was very tired and sleepy and won't be able to drive back the same day. At home Avinash was getting impatient because it was already near dark and Anuradha hadn't called him.

Anuradha also felt nervous but couldn't get Sudhir to drive back and finally at 8 pm she called Avinash to tell him that she won't be able to return that night as she was stuck in a meeting with a foreign delegation and the meeting was likely to run after dinner too. She told Avinash that she will be home only the next evening as the office had arranged for a guesthouse nearby after the meetings. Avinash took her word and went to sleep though a great deal disappointed as he missed his wife on his rare off night.

In Nainital, Sudhir and Anuradha checked into a hotel and decided to spend the night there and leave for Delhi early next morning. They sat in their room talking and discussing their lives and soon Sudhir managed to pry open the concealed emotions of Anuradha and she let her lonelyness and lack of companionship flow out with her tears. Soon the emotions turned into passion and by the time the passion gave way to realization, Anuradha had crossed over to being infidel. She cried a lot but soon regained her composure and Sudhir told her to keep quiet and to stay balanced in her married life as well as love life.

"He is your husband and would never forgive you. He trusts you and he would never doubt that the business meeting was a night out with your lover. He is your responsibility and I don't stop you but I am your companion, I am the person who gives you happiness and good times so enjoy both the world Anu" Sudhir said as he helped her dress and get ready to leave.

After a few days Anuradha forgot the incident and the guilt feeling. However, Sudhir was now closer than ever and after the initial hesitation, she also started enjoying and juggling the two lives comfortably. Sudhir got more and more passionate about her and now he had started objecting to her relationship with Avinash and putting restrictions on her. He ridiculed her for being foolish and marrying a person who didn't love her. Anuradha felt very uneasy with this changed behaviour from Sudhir as she had given everything to him and she used to be very obedient and understanding to him. She started realizing the kind of love that Avinash provided her without any restrictions and doubts. She soon was overcome with guilt and though Sudhir warned her not to talk about their relationship to Avinash, one Sunday night she spoke out and told Avinash everything about Sudhir and her affair.

"Why could you not tell me immediately Anu?" Avinash asked coolly.

"I was afraid that you won't understand and will leave me." Anuradha cried.

"Is that all you could know about me in all these years of our relationship?" He asked.

"I am sorry, I was enjoying a lot and felt very lonely in your absence. Sudhir's presence just used to give me the happy moments that I wanted to have from you. I didn't realize how I ended up making one mistake after the other." Anuradha cried even more.

"Let's sleep Anuradha as we have a busy tommorrow and you need to leave for work early morning." Avinash said and rolled over to sleep.

Next morning Anuradha woke up at the ring of the alarm and didn't find Avinash at her side. She thought that he must have gone to the kitchen to make breakfast as was his habit on mondays. He always used to say that she should start the week relaxed and she again felt a few tears rolling down at his love for her.

There was no sign of Avinash when she returned from bathroom.

"Avi, where are you?" She entered the kitchen calling out to him and to her surprize she found a small piece of paper pasted to the refrigerator door.

"Goodbye Anuradha. You proved that my love was incompetent and not sufficient to keep you happy. God bless you and Sudhir. You will never hear from me again. Only yours, Avinash."

Finding True LOVE..............!!!!!!!!!!!!!

4 person in your life how many have u found?

1st-urself, 

2nd-1 u love most, 

3rd-1 who love u most, 

4th-1 you spend the rest of your life with.

firstly u'll meet the 1 u love most, and learn how love feels. 

Because u know how love feels, so u can find the person who loves u most. 

When u've experienced the feeling of loving others and being loved, u'll then know what

it is u need most. Then u will find the person who is most suitable for u, to be able to spend the rest of your life with.

Sadly,in real life,these 3 people are usually not the same person. 

The one u love most doesn't love you. The one,who love u most,is never the one u love most. And the one u spend your life with,is never the one u love most or the one who love u most.

He/she is just the person who happens to be at the right place at the right time.

Which person are u in other people's life? 

No person will purposely have a change of heart. 

At the point in time when he loves u, he/she really loves u. 

But when he/she doesn't love u anymore, he/she really doesn't love u anymore. 

When he/she loves u, he/she can't pretend that he/she doesn't. 

same goes, when he/she loves u no more, there's no way he/she can pretend he/she loves u. When a person doesn't love u and wants to leave u. u must ask yourself if u still love 

him/her, If u also don't love him/her anymore, do not keep him/her just to save your pride. If you still love him/her, you should wish him/her happiness, and hope that he/she will be with the one he/she loves most, not stop him/her from it. If you stop him/her from finding true happiness with the one he/she loves, it shows u already don't love him/her, And if you don't love him/her, what rights do you have to blame him/her for a change of heart?

Love is not possessive, if you like the moon, you can't just take it down and put it in your basin, But the moonlight still shines upon you. In other words, when you love a person, you can use another method of possessing the person. Let him/her become a permanent memory in you life. If you really love a person, you must love him/her for what he/she is. Love him/her for his/her good points, and the bad, You can't wish for him/her to become like what you like him/her to be just because you love him/her. If he/she can't change to become what you like him/her to be, you don't love him/her anymore. When you really love a person, you cannot find a reason why you love him/her, You only know that no matter when and where, good mood or bad mood, you will wish to have this person be with you.

Real love is when two people can go through the toughest problems without asking for promises or listing criteria. In a relationship, you have to put in effort and give in at times, not always be on the receiving end. Being away from each other is a type of test, If the relationship isn't strong, then you can only admit defeat. Real love will never become hate.

When two people are in love, They love to ask each other to swear, to make promises. Why do they ask each other to swear and promise? Because they don't trust each other, 

they don't trust their lover. These swear and promises are useless; Till the sky falls, till the ocean dry, my love for u will never change! We all know that the sky will never fall; the ocean will never dry, Even if it does happen, are we still alive by then? Be careful when making promises; don't make promises that you cannot keep. Swear by things that can never happen, because it can never happen, so no harm just saying it casually. Rmember? Swearing by things that can never happen are the most touching!!? 

In a relationship, what you say is one thing, but what you do is another; 

The 1 saying, doesn't believe; the 1 listening, also doesn't believe.

Difference Between Love and Infatuation

Are you really in love? Or do you think that you are in love?

There is a big difference between Love and infatuation. Some people can't tell the difference, thinking they are in love but really it is a deep infatuation. Infatuation is instant desire - one set of glands calling to another.

Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.

Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy.

There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.

Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by their presence, even when they are away.

Miles do not separate you. You have so many wonderful little films in your head that you keep replaying.

But near or far, you know they are yours, and you can wait.

Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing them."

Love says, "Be patient. Don't panic. Plan your future with confidence."

Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in intimacy.

Love is not based on sex. It is the maturation of friendship, which makes sex so much sweeter. You must be friends before you can be lovers.

Infatuation lacks confidence. When they're away, you wonder if they're cheating. Sometimes, you check.

Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. They feel your trust, and it makes them even more trustworthy.

Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret, but love never steers you in the wrong direction.

Love is an upper. It makes you feel whole. It completes the circle. It fills the empty space in your heart.

Love is elevating. It lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you think up.

It makes you a better person than you were before. If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you don't have. If there is no love in your life, whatever else there is has a lot less meaning. The secret of our being is not only to live but to have something to live for.

INFATUATION

Infatuation is a feeling; real love involves a commitment also. Infatuation is just love of emotion. Real love, though, is love of devotion. Only the emotions are affected in infatuation, but in real love both the emotions and the will are involved. Next, a person "fall into" infatuation, but "grows into" real love.

Guys, have you ever seen a girl who was so beautiful that you thought you'd faint?

This is infatuation! It is based totally on physical attraction. often you don't know much in-depth about the person you so-called love. Thus, infatuation is mostly biological. Also remember, never tell a girl you love her, unless you are willing to marry her.

Then, infatuation is basically selfish where real love is basically selfless.Infatuation is more interested in satisfying yourself and the feeling than it is in the other person.

Real love is primarily interested in the other person. It seeks to give instead of get.. Love unselfishly seeks the highest good for the other person.

Lastly, infatuation is weakened by time and separation where real love is strengthened by time and separation.

This does not mean that there will be no pain in separation. On the contrary, there is great pain in separation if

you are truly in love.

LOVE

Now you know what is infatuation, we will go on to discuss about the details of a true love. Love is patient. The word translated "patient" means to wait patiently for the fulfilment of expectations.

When you have difficulty dating this girl and she does not want to come out, if you truly love her, you will not complain and blame her, you must look at the situation from her point of view - maybe she is having some problems which prevented her from coming out. You must react to it with patience and understanding.

Next, have you ever met someone you liked so much that you wanted to push the relationship and make it progress faster? Sure you have! Love, however, is willing to give a relationship time to grow at a natural pace.

It does not push but is willing to wait for the relationship to grow at a rate that is satisfactory to both parties.

Love is Kind Love seeks to encourage and build up others. It respects the feelings and emotions of others..

It finds its greatest satisfaction in making others happy.

You can do the following:

1. Give one another things such as gifts and encouragement cards.

2. Compliment one another. Magnify the other party's strength.

3. Listen to one another. Pay close attention to what each of you has to say and make each other feel that what each says is important.

4. Treat one another special in public. Compliment and encourage one another sincerely in the presence of others.

5. Love is Not Jealous. Jealousy usually indicates an insecure and immature heart. Love wants the best for others, but jealousy is possessive. Jealous is reflected in the childish statement, "If he is going to talk to her, then he can just forget

about me!" Often, one person wants to totally possess the other and to restrict her relationships with others.

6. Love is not about bragging. Love is not a windbag and is not anxious to impress. Often a guy will brag to a girl, trying to impress her so that she will like him. A truly great person, however, does not need to exalt himself! Others will exalt him.

7. Love is Not Arrogant. Love is not conceited, boastful,cocky, or stuck-up. Love, instead, is humble and has a servant attitude. Sometimes, a guy may come across to a girl with an "I can take you or leave you" attitude. His demeanour implies, "You ought to be thankful that somebody as neat as me is dating you." Of course, this is not love.

8. Love always covers. This word cover means to pass over in silence, to keep confidential.

9. Love is patient with the faults of others. It doesn't criticise and broadcast to the world the faults of others.

Love is there even when it knows the other is not perfect.

10. Love always Perseveres. Love always stands its ground and hold out. It will outlast anything. It will even love in the face of unrequited love. Real love will last though all sorts of trials, tribulations and stresses.

11. Love is Not Provoked. This means that love has a long fuse. It does not become irritated and angry. It is not easily offended.

12. Love does not seek its own. This is the heart of love. Love is other-centred rather than self- centred. Love says, "I love you, I want to give to you." Selfishness says, "I love you, I want you!"

13. Love does not act unbecomingly. This means that love does not behave disgracefully, dishonourably or indecently. It does not embarrass others by its action. It is characterised by tact and sensitivity. This also means that love should have good manner. Be sure to do little things like opening doors for your girl, or offering her your arm when you walk together.

My First Encounter With LOVE.....(Last Part)

The next day comes.....We were in the same cafe,We were on the same table...

Again she was with the same look...

Suddenly I asked the waiter, "Would you please give me some salt? I'd like to put it in my coffee." Everybody stared at me, so strange! my face turned red but still, I put the salt in my coffee and drank it. She asked me curiously, "Why you have this hobby?" I replied, "When I was a little boy, I lived near the sea, I liked playing in the sea, I could feel the taste of the sea, just like the taste of the salty coffee. Now every time I have the salty coffee, I always think of my childhood, think of my hometown, I miss my hometown so much, I miss my parents who are still living there." While saying that tears filled his eyes. She was deeply touched. That's his true feeling, from the bottom of his heart. A man who can tell out his homesickness, he must be a man who loves home, cares about home, has responsibility of home... Then she also started to speak, spoke about her faraway hometown, her childhood, her family.

That was a really nice talk, also a beautiful beginning of their story. We continued to date. She found that actually I was a man who meets all her demands; I had tolerance, was kind hearted, warm, careful. I was such a good person but she almost missed me! Thanks to my salty coffee! Then the story was just like every beautiful love story, the princess married to the prince, and then we were living the happy life... And, every time she made coffee for me, she put some salt in the coffee, as she knew that's the way I liked it.

After 40 years,  before I passed away, left her a letter which said, "My dearest, please forgive me, forgive my whole life's lie. This was the only lie I said to you---the salty coffee. Remember the first time we dated? I was so nervous at that time, actually I wanted some sugar, but I said salt. It was hard for me to change so I just went ahead. I never thought that could be the start of our communication! I tried to tell you the truth many times in my life, but I was too afraid to do that, as I have promised not to lie to you for anything... Now I'm dying, I afraid of nothing so I tell you the truth, I don't like the salty coffee, what a strange bad taste... But I have had the salty coffee for my whole life! Since I knew you, I never feel sorry for anything I do for you. Having you with me is my biggest happiness for my whole life. If I can live for the second time, still want to know you and have you for my whole life, even though I have to drink the salty coffee again."

Her tears made the letter totally wet. Someday, someone asked her, "What's the taste of salty coffee?" She replied, "It's sweet."

My First Encounter With LOVE.....(Part 2)

"Though we r miles apart, u r always n my heart. I close my eyes & der u r. Even f I'll see u never, I'll always b here 2 care 4 u, far longer dan 4ever..."

One December night, she sent me this message. By that time we had been exchanging messages for more than a month. God knew how happy I was. She was right. Although we had not seen each other, what we felt was enough to make us both realize what was keeping us together.

I sent her another message, "Loving u secretly is a hard thing 4 me 2 do,hoping, wondring that u will feel d same way 2, but I can't read r mind f u luv me 2. But whatever it is, I'll still be loving u."

"How I wish I cud really tell u how much u mean 2 me, but m afraid 2 love, scared 2 get hurt... I hope dat u will wait 4 me & pray dat u will not get tired of loving me...=)" was her reply.

And then I replied again. " The reason y I met u is bcoz of destiny but f destiny will suggest dat I'll live w/o u, den, I'll lie not by destiny but of free will."

Whenever I asked her when we would meet personally, she always answered, "Soon...soon, love...soon."

Not seeing each other did not lessen, even a bit, what I felt for her...rather, it even grew deeper and stronger each day. And I was sure, she felt the same way, too. Love messages continued to flow through our lines, between our hearts, which made us go on each day with the thought that sooner, we would see each other, face to face, heart to heart.

Just a few days before Christmas. She stopped sending messages. At first I just though she had ran out of prepaid.

But there was something that kept bothering me... I couldn't understand what was it, but it made me fell nervous. I tried to call her but she wouldn't answer. Nevertheless, I continued sending messages.

Suddenly one night, just three days before christmas. I heard my phone's message tone again... at last!It was from her!

"Oftentyms we say gudbye 2 d 1 we luv w/o wanting 2. Though dat doesn't mean dat we stopped loving dem or we stopped 2 care. Sometyms, GOODBYE is a painful way 2 say I LOVE YOU."

I was shocked. I didn't know what to think of. What did she mean? I texted her back, searching for answers, but found nothing. I called her but she would not answer.

For the first time in my life, I felt so miserable...desperate... empty. I didn't know what to do. I didn't want to lose her. I had learned to love her. And I wanted to be with her forever.

The following days I felt nothing but emptiness. It seemed that Raveena took the life out of me. I missed her so much...her messages...The tones that would tell me she'd sent another loving message. Nothing around me could feel the emptiness I felt.

Tut...tut...tut...tut...tut...just a day before Christmas, my cell beeped again. It was her!

"Meet me at d café, 10 AM 2day," I read aloud, making sure the message was true, then I jumped with joy upon hearing from her again. Hurriedly, I got myself ready and I went to the mall. I knew it was still early, but I wanted to be there before she arrived.

I arrived at the meeting place ten minutes earlier. I was surprised to see her already there, smiling at me. She was very beautiful, Black, deep-set eyes that spoke a thousand words; small, kissable lips; a nose perfectly chiseled and long black hair - everything in her was beautiful. And yes, her eyes radiated kindness and love...but there was a flicker of something in them...sadness?

"Hi, Ranbir," said the angelic voice I had been dreaming of each night. The voice that I had waited to hear for so long. "Please sit down." "I am very pleased to meet you, " I said, as I took my seat and gave the roses I brought for her.

"Thanks,ranbir," she smiled, obviously pleased with the roses. I knew she loved pink roses.

"You are always welcome, Love" "ranbir, I can't stay," she said, sadness in her voice, or was it tears? "I really must go."

"But we just met, Raveena. Can't we talk a little longer?" I asked, pleadingly.

"I can't really. I just came here to see you and thank you for the time you shared with me. Thank you for everything, Julius. I will

She was looking at me straight into the eyes, and I could really feel the sadness in her voice and I swear, there was something in her voice and I swear, there was something in those lovely yet lonely eyes...

She got up and smiled at me, lovingly.

"Tomorrow morning, please come and visit me,"  

never forget you...you will always be here in my heart."

          To be continued....(last Part)

My First Encounter With LOVE.....(Part 1)

My cellphone's beeping sound woke me up one night. Used to receiving important messages only, I grabbed my cell and sleepily pushed the keys and read the message.

"Hi there! Can we messeg??????

Not knowing who the sender was, I deleted the message right away and placed the phone on my bedside table, I tried to go back to sleep.

I had just closed my eyes when I heard the message tone again.

"Hi there! Can we messeg??????again, the message said.

"Who the hell could this be asking for messeges at the wee hours of the night?" I asked myself.

Again, without bothering to reply I deleted the message.

I was never a sms savy - someone who enjoys texting anyone and everyone even at the wee hours of night, not to mention during the day. 

I wanted to turn the cell off, but since my mother was fond of calling me at night, just to check if I was safe at home, I decided not to.

Just as I was to close my eyes and return to my dreamless sleep, the phone beeped again.

Same number...Such determination!

"Ply reply 2 dis msg and get rid  of emptiness!!!"

I never knew why, but the message struck me. I got up and pushed the keys... I just realized I was replying to the message.

"Im not an angel, n f u want som1 2 save u, m not superman... I'm just a simple prson who u wake up at dis time of my nyt!!! Nway, do I know u?" I typed.

Seconds later came the reply.

"Nope. U don't know dis lonely soul. Nor does she know u. But I want 2 b ur frnd. I'm Ravina(name cant disclose).

 U?"

"Just call me Ranbir(name cant disclose). 

How  u get my no.?" I sent back.

"Hi sachin, nice 2 meet u. Just shuffled the last two digits of mine," she replied.

That was the first and maybe the last time I met someone over the cellphone.

We exchanged messages and learned so much about each other that night. We only said goodbye when my alarm clock rang at 5:00 AM! I had to prepare for office!

And that was also how it all started. A day would not pass without it loving and thoughtful messages from her. It was only then I had learned to appreciate text messages and become eager and excited everytime my phone beeped, hoping it would be her.

Ravina brought out something about me that I never knew I had; I realized I could also be a romantic person... even if it's just through text messaging.

"Keep me as a frnd & I will keep u in my heart. Lock it up & throw away d key so dat no1 can evr tke u away from me..."

One day, she sent this message to me.

I replied: 'In life, we seldom find a true prson & f u evr find 1, hold on & nvr let go... value dat prson coz it's lyf's gift worth keeping & holdin on..."

I never knew why, but her response sent shivers to my spine, " Value d people who have touched ur life bcoz u will never know just wen dey will walk out of ur lyf & nvr come back again."

I couldn't understand what I felt that moment, but one thing I was sure though... I could not go on a day without a single word from her. I'd become used to having her, eventhough we had not met personally. But truly, she already occupied a space, a large one, in fact in my life.

I texted her back. "Dont come close f later u will jst pass by; don't touch me if later u will jst let me cry; dont luv me if later u will jst leave me and won't stay..."

I didn't know why I sent her that message, but somehow I felt, every word came from my heart. In the short span of time we were sending messages to each other, I knew, I was starting to keep her in my heart.

I called her once. The voice on the other end was like an angel's. Soft, kind, full of love. Yet, there was something in it I couldn't define. We only talked for a few minutes. Before she hung up, she told me not to call again. According to her, it would be better if we would just text each other.

But the voice kept ringing, not only in my head, but in my heart, I'd long to hear it once more. I tried to call her again, but she never answered the phone. She just kept on sending messages and quotations, which I copied in a little notebook. I didn't know. All I could say was that all the messages she sent me were wonderful, they came from the heart and cut through the heart.

to be continued.....

Love Meaning...........

To love is to share life together

to build special plans just for two

to work side by side

and then smile with pride

as one by one, dreams all come true.

To love is to help and encourage

with smiles and sincere words of praise

to take time to share

to listen and care

in tender, affectionate ways.

To love is to have someone special

one who you can always depend

to be there through the years

sharing laughter and tears

as a partner, a lover, a friend.

To love is to make special memories

of moments you love to recall

of all the good things

that sharing life brings

love is the greatest of all.

I've learned the full meaning

of sharing and caring

and having my dreams all come true;

I've learned the full meaning

of being in love

by being and loving with you.

Be Happy.....

There was a blind girl who was filled with animosity and despised the world.

She didn't have many friends, just a boyfriend who loved her deeply, like no one else.


She always used to say that she'd marry him if she could see him. Suddenly, one day someone donated her a pair of eyes…


And that's when she finally saw her boyfriend…


She was astonished to see that her boyfriend too was blind…

He told her, "You can see me now, can we get married?"

She replied, "And do what? We'd never be happy. I have my eye sight now, but you're still blind. It won't work out, I'm sorry."


With a tear in his eye and a smile on his face, he meekly said, "I understand. I just want you to always be happy. Take care of yourself, and my eyes."

My love for u.........

My love for you is as cool as the ocean

as we walked through the waves with love and devotion

my love for you is not as complex

it’s not just your looks or the great sex

it’s your personality that shines to me

being with you shows what love can be

I look at the picture that you sent me

knowing your waiting makes me happy

all the times we’ve spent together

I just hope the good times can last forever and ever

I never want anyone to tear us apart

a piece of you will always be in my heart… 

The End............ :(

The end sadly came. You made me feel so special, 

you even made me feel Unique.

Having you by my side made me feel so right.

Even though we choose to part I hope you’ll now,

You’ll always be in my heart, in my mind

You’ll be that special one, my first kiss 

The one guy I’ll truly miss.

No one will make me forget, 

the way you held me in your arms

is one I’ll never regret. 

So now we say our “good-byes” 

and I try so hard not to cry.

One Day....

one day 

one day will you come back to me

one day will you say 

"I'm sorry, be with me again"

just one day

one day tell me "I love you” 

just one day

one day in the near futuare come back to me

and when that one day comes 

we can reduce the past exactly

reduce the whole past exactly 

one day, please,

just one day

Believe in me...........

Do you believe in love at first sight?

Do you believe dreams come true?

Do you believe in all this, I know I do!

I believe that dreams come true 

because I have always dreamed of someone like you .

I believe in love at first sight 

because it just felt so right when I saw you that night. 

Now I believe, so, baby, please never leave , 

just stay with me and maybe you will finally see 

that you also believe in me !!!

I HATE YOU..............

i was fine before you walked into my life,

          I hate your hair, your clothes and your style

I hate your humour, your voice and your smile

I hate everything that belongs to

you because they just remind me of you

I hate you when you don’t even

care to talk at me

I hate you when you ignore the stupid me

I hate to see you because the more I see you, the more I think of you

I hate you when I wake up in the morning because you are the first thing

on my mind

I hate you when I go to bed at night because you are

always in my dreams

I hate you when I’m feeling lonely

I hate you when you’re feeling sad because you never share with me

I hate you when I try to get close to you because you never understand me

I hate you because no matter how hard I try I cannot get you out of my mind

I hate you because the truth is that I can’t hate you any more

I hate you because I never hate you at all

I hate you because you don’t know

how much I love you and I Care for you

I hate you still because I love you

I hate you because I love you