Little girl and her father were crossing a bridge.
The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter,
"Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river."
The little girl said, "No, Dad. You hold my hand."
"What's the difference?" Asked the puzzled father.
"There's a big difference," replied the little girl.

"If I hold your hand and something happens to me,
chances are that I may let your hand go.
But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens,
you will never let my hand go."

In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond.

So hold the hand of the person who loves you rather than expecting them to hold

yours...

This message is too short... but carries a lot of Feelings

Why people fall in love?

It is a mystery why we fall in love. It is a mystery how it

happens. It is a mystery when it comes. It is a mystery why
some love grows and it is a mystery why some love fails.

You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and
causes, but you will never do anymore that take the life out
of the experience. Just as life itself is more than the sum of
the bones and muscles and electrical impulses in the body,
love is more than the sum of the interests and attractions
and commonalities that two people share. And just as life
itself is a gift that comes and goes in its own time, so too, the
coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that
cannot be questioned in its ways.

Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life - the gift of
love will come to you in full flower. Take hold of it and
celebrate it in all inexpressible beauty. This is the dream we
all share. More often, it will come and take hold of you,
celebrate you for a brief moment, then move on.

When this happen to young people, they too often try to
grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a
gift that just as freely, moves away. When they fall out of
love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving,
they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather
than accepting the gift for what it was, then moving on.

They want answers where there are no answers. They
want to know what is wrong in them that makes the other
person no longer love them, or try to get their love to change,
thinking that if some small things were different, love would
bloom again. They blame their circumstances and say that if
they go far away and start a new life, their love will grow.

They try anything to give meaning to what has happened. But
there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they
accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery.

You need to know this about love, and accept it. You need to
treat what it brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in
love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with
yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't
choose to rest in the other person's heart.

If you find yourself someone in love with you but you don't
love him back, feel honored that love came and called at your
door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not
take advantage; do not cause pain. How you deal with love
is how you deal with yourself. All our hearts feel the same
pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another, and he falls in love with you,
and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it nor to
assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a
meaning. You will know in time.

Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All
you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it
comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing,
then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person
who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it
poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can.

There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long
without love, they understand love only as a need. They see
their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and
they begin to look at love as something that flows to them
rather than from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as
their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need.
They cease to be someone who generates love and instead
become someone who seeks love. They forget that the
secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to
grow only by giving it away.

Remember this and keep it to your heart. Love has its time, its
own season, its own reason for coming and going. You
cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can
only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it
comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or
from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and
there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and
always will be a mystery. BE GLAD THAT IT CAME TO LIVE
FOR A MOMENT IN YOUR LIFE.

If you keep you heart open, it will come again...

What I've Learned About Friendship..

• I've learned that there are many good friends around, but true best friends are hard to come by.
• I've learned that sometimes you love a best friend more than a boyfriend.
• I've learned that a best friend is more important than a boyfriend.
• I've learned that you can do something or nothing with a best friend and still have the best time.
• I've learned that a true friendship has many memories, both good and bad, but all important.
• I've learned that sometimes the most used part of a best friend is the shoulder you cry on, and the shoulder you are willing to lend.
• I've learned that when a best friend is happy, you find yourself happy too, even when it has nothing to do with you.
• I've learned that a best friend's family soon feels like your own.
• I've learned that the only one who truly understands is a true friend.
• I've learned that nothing ever sounds stupid, funny, or unbelievable to a best friend, and you never feel stupid saying whatever it is.
• I've learned that sometimes it feels like a best friend is the only one who will ever care about you and think you are beautiful in your own way.
• I've learned that you always have that something extra to give to a best friend in need, and can count on that in return.
• I've learned that your heart is forever touched by a true friend, no matter how things end up.
• I've learned that when your heart has been broken, a best friend is the best band-aid for it.
• I've learned that a best friend will call you in the middle of the night to talk without thinking, and it's OK.
• I've learned that in many cases, a hug and a kind word from a best friend is the only thing that helps get you through the day.
• I've learned that a best friend would stick up for you no matter what the consequences are.
• I've learned that best friends can sing at the top of their lungs and not worry about singing the wrong words or being out of tune.
• I've learned that best friends stay up all night and on the phone for hours talking without even realizing it.
• I've learned that a best friend can tell the difference between a silly crush, and more than that.
• I've learned that sometimes a best friend is all you have.
• I've learned that sometimes you wonder how she knew, but then you realize that's just how close you are.
• I've learned that when you are true best friends, everyone else knows it.
• I've learned that, most importantly of all, best friends will always be best friends, no matter what is happening in their lives, where they are, or what they are doing. A best friend is irreplaceable. This is the most important thing I could have ever been taught by a best friend.

FRIENDSHIP.........

"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born."

"Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art... It has no survival value; rather is one of those things that give value to survival."

"Friendship with oneself is all-important because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world."

"Friendship with oneself is all-important because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world."

"A friend will be there for you when things are good...but a TRUE friend will be there for you when things are good and also when things are very bad...and just when it feels like you will never smile again...she can put a smile on your face with just with a hug!"
"If you are going to gain anything in life, gain a friend, they will always be there, and that makes all the difference in the world."

"True friends are never apart, maybe in distance, but not in heart"

"True friendship is sitting together in silence and feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had."

Love is patient,
Love is kind.
It does not envy,
It does not boast,
It is not proud.
It is not rude,
It is not self-seeking,
It is not easily angered,
It keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres....

Love Like You’ve Never Been Hurt...

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough and we’ll be more content when they are. After that we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.

We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire. The truth is, there’s no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges. It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.

One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D Souza. He said, “For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.”

This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have. And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time… and remember that time waits for no one…

So stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter, until you are off welfare, until the first or fifteenth, until your song comes on, until you’ve had a drink, until you’ve sobered up, until you die, until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy… Happiness is a journey, not a destination.

Thought for the day:

Work like you don’t need money,
Love like you’ve never been hurt,
And dance like no one’s watching.

Just Quote......

IT IS POSSIBLE TO CROSS AN OCEAN WITHOUT WETTING LEGS...
BUT IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO CROSS THE LIFE WITHOUT WETTING EYES...

My Friend,,,,,,,,,,,

if you are my friend, please answer me this:
Are we friends, or are we not?
You told me once, but I forgot.
So tell me now, and tell me true,
So I can say I'm here for you
Of all the friends I've ever met,
You're the one I won't forget
And if I die before you do,
I'll go to heaven and wait for you,
I'll give the angels back their wings
and risk the loss of everything
There isn't a thing I wouldn't do
To have a friend just like you. 

Love Your Parents

Once,an old man was sitting on a bench of a garden with his 25yrs old son. There was a tree beside the bench. Old man saw a bird sitting on the tree,he asked the son what is this? Son replied, its a crow. The old man again asked what is this?? Son said,I already told you, that its a crow. The old man again asked what id this? Son angrily said, are you deaf or mad papa?? How many times to tell you its a crow,can't you understand? Old man,patiently replied my dear son, when you were 5 yrs old,you asked me 174 times the same question that what is this. I replied every time with a kiss, that is a crow!! Now i asked you 3 times, and you were irritated. It is the difference between the love parent and love from children. So please do your duty when your parents are dependent on you.. "LOVE YOUR PARENTS"

"LOVE"

We cannot Love when we feel fear.
We cannot Love when we feel guilt.
When we release the fearful past and
forgive everyone,we experience total
Love and a oneness with all.......

प्यार क्या है??????

प्यार का मतलब क्या वास्तव में प्यार है? प्यार - वहाँ शब्द के लिए एक पूर्ण अर्थ है? या यह शुद्ध रूप से व्यक्तिपरक? सच्चे प्यार की अवधारणा है कि हम क्या सब हमारे जीवन के लिए खोज करते हैं. अभी तक प्यार एक सभी का सबसे ग़लत समझा संकल्पनाओं में से एक है. लोगों को वास्तव में कुछ भी से भी अधिक चाहते हैं और क्या करने के लिए बिना शर्त प्यार किया है, के लिए हम जो कर रहे हैं के लिए स्वीकार किया, और अभी भी प्यार किया है. कभी कभी हम कुछ पागल बातें प्यार के नाम पर, क्या करेंगे. प्यार वास्तव में पसंद एक करने के लिए किसी की इच्छा, इच्छा और अपने स्वयं के ऊपर डाल की जरूरत है बनाता है. कई लोगों को भ्रमित शब्द के अर्थ के साथ शब्द प्यार चाहते हैं या इच्छा. उदाहरण के लिए, कभी कभी जब एक जवान आदमी अपने सपनों की औरत को कहता है, मैं तुम्हें प्यार करता हूँ, जब वह इसका मतलब है कि वह उसे अपने ही स्वार्थी इच्छाओं की वजह से चाहती है. वह एक है कि सब उस पर उत्साहित महसूस कर सकते है, लेकिन वास्तव में वह उसे, या उसके या उसकी मानसिकता उसे बनाने की क्षमता की वजह से शारीरिक उपस्थिति की वजह से चाहते हो सकता है अच्छा या महत्वपूर्ण लगता है. नोटिस उसके पीछा उसे खुद को और अपनी इच्छाओं पर आधारित है के लिए प्राथमिक उद्देश्य है, न उसे भाता है, हालांकि वह उसे कृपया चुनते हैं, लेकिन हो सकता है केवल अपने चाहता है की पूर्ति के आधार पर उस पर.वही एक जवान औरत के लिए चला जाता है, जब वह अपने सपनों के आदमी से कहता है, मैं तुम्हें प्यार करता हूँ, वह वास्तव में मतलब है कि वह उसे अपने भौतिक स्वरूप, स्थिति, मानसिकता या अपनी क्षमता की वजह से चाहता है कि उसे अच्छा या महत्वपूर्ण लगता है. शब्द के अर्थ के लिए शब्द प्यार का यह प्रयोग करना चाहते कभी इतनी तरह से हम का उपयोग करें और यह दुरुपयोग में उपस्थित थे. क्योंकि हम स्वार्थी जीव हैं, और प्यार के बारे में हमारी समझ के लिए पहले की कृपा हो, देखो कि कैसे इस शब्द overused है. · मैं पिताजी जॉन पिज्जा प्यार करता हूँ. मैं सिर्फ · पवन के साथ चला प्यार करता हूँ. · मैं टाइटैनिक प्यार करता था. · मैं जैज संगीत से प्यार है. · मैं बीथोवेन प्यार करता हूँ. · मैं डॉ. मोर्यू के द्वीप से प्यार है. बेहतर प्रेम की अवधारणा को समझने के लिए, प्यार के मूल्य को परिभाषित करने देता है. प्यार की दुनिया में सबसे मूल्यवान वस्तु है. हम सभी को प्यार की जरूरत है जैसे एक मछली जल की जरूरत है. प्यार के बिना, जीवन जीने के लायक नहीं होगा. हमारे जीवन में प्यार के साथ, हम विश्वास से परे सशक्त हैं. हमारे जीवन में प्यार के बिना हम ऊपर सूखना और एक धीमी, दर्दनाक और अकेला मौत मर जाएगा. प्यार बहुत सार और हमारे होने का मूल है. यह ऊर्जा है कि कौन मजबूत है और हम क्या कर रहे है. जीवन में हर कोई एक गहरी जड़ें करने के लिए प्यार और प्यार की इच्छा है. कई बार लोगों को केवल अपने भावनात्मक रूप में प्यार पहचाना. हम सुन सकते हैं टीवी पर लोगों का कहना चीजों की तरह, मैं तुम्हें प्यार नहीं करते, क्योंकि वे उनके भावनात्मक भावनाओं को व्यक्त. हालांकि, प्यार एक बहुत हम क्या लगता है से अधिक है. प्यार ऊर्जा का एक रूप है कि आध्यात्मिक या दिया जा सकता है शारीरिक, भावनात्मक, मानसिक या रूपों में प्राप्त होता है. प्यार आमतौर पर हमारे विचार में शुरू होता है, तो हमारे कार्यों के माध्यम से भौतिक दुनिया के लिए फैलता है, और फिर इसे भावनात्मक भावनाओं का उत्पादन होगा. उदाहरण के लिए, यह करने के लिए अपने पति से नाराज़ हो सकता है और अपने आप को हमारे कार्यों में उनके लिए कुछ अच्छा करने के लिए मजबूर फूल खरीदने की तरह, संभव है. बहुत जल्द हमारी भावनाओं को लात में और उसके बाद हम देखते हैं कितना खुश हमारे साथी उपहार प्राप्त करने पर, हमारी भावनाओं का पालन करेंगे. प्यार एक सर्वोच्च शक्ति है कि मानसिक रूप से शुरू होता है और शारीरिक अभिव्यक्ति के लिए अपना रास्ता ढूँढता से एक आध्यात्मिक उपहार है, लेकिन भावनात्मक भावनाओं को हम प्यार कॉल बहुत सच में प्यार के बारे में क्या है के साथ क्या कुछ किया है. इसके अलावा, प्यार भी स्वस्थ और अस्वस्थ रूपों में आ सकता है. प्यार एक ऊर्जा है कि एक सकारात्मक, स्वस्थ तरीके से या एक नकारात्मक, अस्वास्थ्यकर तरीके से इस्तेमाल किया जा सकता है. वहाँ बिना शर्त प्यार है, जो बहुत, स्वीकार कर रहा है समर्थन और क्षमा है. वहाँ मुश्किल प्यार है, जो अनुशासित, आधिकारिक और अनुरूप है. उदाहरण के लिए, यदि एक पिता पुत्र दवाओं का उपयोग कर रहे थे, वह बिना शर्त उसे प्यार कर सकता है और उसके विनाशकारी व्यवहार स्वीकार करते हैं, उम्मीद है कि वह जरूरत से ज्यादा और मरता नहीं है. या वह मुश्किल प्यार का उपयोग करें और एक पुनर्वास अस्पताल में उसे एक को अपने जीवन को बचाने के प्रयास में डाल सकता है. तो एक परिणाम के रूप में, बहुत ज्यादा मुश्किल प्यार अस्वस्थ बहुत ज्यादा अस्वस्थ बिना शर्त किया जा सकता है प्यार की तरह, हो सकता है. प्यार की स्वीकृति भी बेहतर प्रेम की अवधारणा को समझने में एक भूमिका निभाता है.कई बार हम अपने साथी को प्यार उसी तरह हम इसे प्राप्त करना चाहते हैं दे. लेकिन एक व्यक्ति इस तरह से प्यार करना उनके हित में नहीं हो सकता है. अगर प्यार के बारे में हमारी उपहार के लिए दूसरे व्यक्ति में अच्छा बढ़ावा देने के लिए विफल रहता है, वे इसे पसंद नहीं है और इसे अस्वीकार कर सकता है. दूसरी बार हम अपने सहयोगियों के द्वारा एक ही तरह से हम अपने माता पिता से बच्चों के रूप में प्यार में थे प्यार किया उम्मीद कर सकते हैं. उदाहरण के लिए यदि हमारे माता पिता ने हमें हम चीजों को खरीदने से प्यार लगता है, हम उपहार, गहने, कपड़े और महंगे खिलौने के रूप में विशेष रूप से सहयोगी प्यार कार्रवाई हो सकती है. हमारे साथी सबसे प्यारा, सहायक, दयालु, और दुनिया में व्यक्ति की देखभाल कर समझ सकता है और यह संभव है कि हम अपने प्यार इरादे की अनदेखी अगर वे एक दुकान से नहीं आया था सकता था. अंत में, दूसरों को प्यार करने के लिए प्रयास करता है, और कुछ मामलों में यह बहुत मुश्किल काम हो सकता है. आदर्श रूप में, हम भी लोग हैं जो हम विशेष रूप से या पसंद नहीं है आकर्षक प्यार सक्षम होना चाहिए. इस के रूप में अनुचित रूप में यह लग सकता है, नहीं है और अगर हम समझते हैं कि प्यार सिर्फ एक भावना नहीं है, लेकिन यह व्यक्त किया है जब हम किसी अन्य व्यक्ति है कि उनकी आध्यात्मिक और भावनात्मक विकास, जो बारी में मदद करता है उन्हें अपनी पूरी क्षमता का एहसास मानव के लाभ के लिए कुछ करना .

Abt Yourself

Be more CONCERNED with your CHARACTER..
Than your REPUTATION cause your CHARACTER..
Is what u REALLY are while your REPUTATION..
Is merely what others think u are....

Whats True Love

I have no words to explain abt my love,
bcoz i have got an amazing person who can understand even my silence.....
THATS TRUE LOVE I THINK.....

about true love

True love is when you have to watch a friend leave, with the knowledge that you might never see him again. But you know he'll be in your mind and heart forever...

Abt Love

Real love is not based on Romance.....
Candle Light dinner and....
Walks along the Beach but...
In fact it is based on Respect, Care & Understanding....

How to Get Over Heartbreak.....???

1.Cry cry cry..clean your eyes out..Note: Guys, you are allowed to cry too. Forget about what mummy said. Do not hold back your tears, do not hold on to your emotions. This is 1 of the reasons why averagely, men die younger than women. You hold back too much!!

2.Drink!! But please do not end up as an alcoholic.

3.Yell!! Yell your lungs out. (Curse if you have to)

4.Listen to loud music. Rock, heavy metal, techno, whatever but NOT love songs please.

Note: Get your headphone on. Disturb only yourself.

5.Force yourself OUT from your house. Go anywhere...

Suggestion: If you are a guy, chill out with your 'brothers'. If you are a girl, hang out with your dear girl friends. Why? You are already in a mess. You do not need any additional mess sleeping with the wrong person or waking up on the streets.

6.Done pouring out your emotions? Now, stop Victimizing 

yourself. Get back on your feet. Drag yourself up if you have to.

7.Get professional help. Recommendation, a psychologist.

Note: Asians, forget about the general perceptions of a psychologist or seeing a psychologist. They are NOT TRUE!! You are NOT crazy seeking help from a psychologist. They are merely trained human being just to help you...

What is Love...................????????????

What is the meaning of love?

Most people who claim to love someone don’t really love them, because they don’t know what love actually is

What is love NOT?

Possessiveness is not love
Jealousy is not love
Lust is not love
Fear is not love
Keeping people all to yourself is not love
Expecting something from someone is not love

Real love is unconditional. All other “forms” of love are not really love. Most parents and kids don’t love each other, most people in relationships don’t love each other, most people on the planet never experience unconditional love in their entire lives… or at least it sure looks that way.

To love someone unconditionally means that you love the person exactly as they are, exactly as they were before, and exactly as they will be in the future – because people change all the time, so if you love the person, you will love them even if they become something you disagree with. How many parents can say that about their kids? How many people can say that about their “lover”? Love is not about you or your pleasure or your amusement. It’s not about what you get out of it or what the other person can give to you. It’s not about having a trophy you can show off with and tell people “This is *MY* girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband/son/daughter/whatever”. You do not “own” anyone. It’s not about you feeling ‘proud’ to be with someone who always agrees with everything you say and do and never does anything you disagree with. Unconditional love means that the person can just live their life exactly as they choose and you will always be there for them no matter what.

So, how does unconditional love fit in with relationships and marriage and sex and all that stuff the whole world keeps going crazy over? It doesn’t, really. It doesn’t “fit” in anywhere. Relationships are like trying to put love into a box and keep it there, except love is infinitely sized, and the box is… well, there is no box large enough. And a normal, conventional marriage is quite possibly the worst possible way to show someone how much you love them.

Unconditional love is more of a spiritual thing. It’s not bound by physical things, like blood relations and the desire to procreate. It has nothing whatsoever to do with sex. Most people are in relationships because they’re horny and/or lonely, even if they genuinely think they love the other person. But if the person they “love” suddenly lost their “equipment” for whatever reason, would they still want to be with that person? Would they get jealous if the person they “love” wanted to spend time with other people as well? Relationships based on needs are not unconditional.

In order to truly understand love, you must first forget everything you have ever learned about it from society and anyone else (including what I just said). You are the only person who can tell you what love is. The only reason I’m writing all this stuff is because people always try to fit “love” in with things like dating, relationships and marriage and all that. You can’t make any sense of it if you keep doing that. You have to get rid of everything you think you know firs

Keep Moving Forward.......

What does it take to move forward in life? One of the key things needed to move forward is the ability to focus. The mind must be clear about what it needs to focus on. There are times when it is critical to focus on what is taking place at that time. My advice is to focus on what is most important or that appears to be the priority. If you do not focus on what is most important; you could be in real trouble in the near or not to distance future.

Another key point to moving forward in life is having the ability see success. If someone is unable to see success then they may never feel inspired to seek greater achievements in life. There must be inside the heart something that enables one to see success. If we look at most people who have done well moving forward in life; we will see that they all had the ability to see success.

Well, if you have not watched the movie, “Meet the Robinsons” then do so. It is such a lovely movie.

What I love about the movie is its message, which is: Keep moving forward. No matter how many times you fail, keep trying because eventually you’ll succeed. There’s even a quote at the end of the movie from Walt Disney himself that contains the phrase in it. [If you're the cynical type, don’t be so quick to dismiss the message as trite. Even if you’re not an animated film fan, check out the movie for a dose of inspiration.]

The message is so simple and yet so profound. It’s easy for all of us to develop a bit of an inferiority complex as we struggle to find a career we love and pursue it. I experienced many failures myself as I was making my transition—from exploring lots of possibilities and feeling like none of them was the right one, to trying to create a financial plan for how to make it happen and not seeing a way out, to trying to be grateful for what I already had and feeling miserable instead.

If your goal is precious, and it is, Walt Disney’s words are poignant, inspirational, and on point. Here’s what he said:

“Around here, however, we don’t look backwards for very long. We keep moving forward, opening up new doors and doing new things… and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.”

Life can hit hard. Sometimes you get knocked down when you don’t even see it coming. Some are cheap shots, some are glancing blows and some can bring you to your knees. When this happens, it’s not about how hard you get hit; it’s about how hard you can get hit, but still find the strength to keep moving forward. It’s about having the will to continue in spite of the obstacles.

When you get hit, do you stay down? Or do you reach down somewhere deep inside of you and pull up the courage that lifts you back on your feet to keep moving forward? You do have a choice. Consider these Nine Ways to Keep Moving Forward when you are faced with this choice again.

Forget Regret

Leave your mistakes and regret in the past. They don’t define your value, then or now. When you stay in the past you become stuck and unable to move forward. We all have made mistakes with our job choices, friends and relationships. The consequences can hit us pretty hard. However, to begin learning how to put these experiences behind us – by letting them go, we can begin to live in the here and now. Give yourself the gift of forgiveness and keep moving forward.

Learn from Failure

Learning from failure and having regret are two separate things. Regret is an emotion; a feeling of disappointment along with a modest amount of shame or guilt. But to look back at a circumstance and figure out what went wrong gives you some very important information. This review allows you to evaluate what worked and what didn’t, and more importantly, why. Often when you are removed from a situation, you can look at it more objectively which will allow you to make better choices to keep moving forward.

Ask for Help

You are not alone. It may feel that way sometimes, but there are many people who would extend their hand and lift you up if asked. All you have to do is ask. Consider co-workers, neighbors, or your church. Often times we are afraid to ask because we don’t believe we are worthy to receive the help. Think about this: we are surrounded by millions and millions of people by design – for a purpose. A hand to grasp, a shoulder to cling, and a face to radiate hope can help you to keep moving forward.

Believe You are Worthy

Whatever your goal, your dream, or your desire, you are worthy of achieving it. The closer you get to it is when the enemy of you soul will begin putting doubt in your mind by playing the self-limiting tapes that say you are not worthy. Replace these old tapes with a newer one that contains the truth – you are worthy to have your heart’s true desire and to keep moving forward.

Take 100% Responsibility

Except in rare and unfortunate circumstances, you are responsible for the quality and condition of your life. Your career, your relationships and your happiness are all under your direct control. Sometimes we choose to do nothing when we get hit hard because it’s just easier and less painful that way. But the real pain is only deferred. You have to live with yourself. You have to live with the voice in your gut, your inner wisdowm, that says you gave up too soon or didn’t try hard enough. When you hear this inner voice speaking to you, it’s usually right. It’s you choice, then, to get up and keep moving forward.

Know What You Want

This isn’t about the how, only the what. In order to move forward in life, you need a firm foundation to step from. Understanding what and whereyou want to go in life will provide your vision and spirit – your foundation. The how will figure itself out when you know you want to keep moving forward.

Trust

There are no accidents without value. When you get hit hard and land on your back, look for the reasons and for the value in this. Open your heart and trust this happened for a reason. Perhaps it was to test your determination or to alert you to the fact you were on the wrong path. Either way, trust the experience is happening for a reason and be open to making adjustments in order to keep moving forward.

Want it More

How badly do you want it? How badly do you really want to achieve what you are working so hard to accomplish? When you get hit hard, you have an opportunity to answer this question. It’s one thing to say you want to do something, or to be something. But to walk through the pain; to get up and keep moving forward knowing there may be more pain ahead, is a test of your determination and resolve. When you find yourself getting back on your feet, you have indeed answered this question and there’s no doubt you will keep moving forward.

Keep the Faith

Faith: A strong belief in something without proof or evidence
At the end of the day when you are weary from all of the effort and energy you have expended and you are sore and tired from being hit hard so many times, but the dream is not realized, the one thing that tells you to keep going; to get up tomorrow and to keep moving forward, is your faith. Honor this and cherish it. Faith is what makes you human. It gives you energy and hope. And if you let it, your faith will deliver you to wherever you want to go in life.

I hope that helps you all.

As you move forward in life, occasionally look ahead to your next horizon. The next challenge you see will give you the drive to keep moving forward. Looking forward will hone your ability to achieve success.

Cheers!! and

Keep moving forward.

Silence..............................

Have you ever experienced a moment in your life when you just ran out of words and you go…
                                        S i l e n t ???

Let me assist you in recalling…

…. the moment when you left your home for the first time and you look 

back at your parents who are worried that their son/daughter are
leaving them yet happy that their child took the first step towards
independence.

….. the moment when the girl/boy you like most.. smiled back at you!
You don’t say anything.. you just smile back..

….. the moment when you get better marks than you expected… those
"numb" moments of ecstasy n surprise "is that true?"…

….. the moment when you are parting with your old friend(s) and the
train has just started… and you are standing on the door of the
wagon.. waving "bye-bye" with your heart beating fast…

… .. the moment after the HR manager has just called you and told you,
"You are through! Congrats!"

….. the moment when you sit alone in your room after having told
everyone that you cleared that exam you prepared for 6 months!!

You can go on remembering your "special" moments!

I had always wondered why I never said anything to myself at those
moments.. as if it was "understood"… happiness, joy, pain.. all
feelings just flowed ceaselessly in the ‘years’ that passed in those
flash moments!

They say.. the best way to communicate is through "silence".

Love. Joy. Grief. Surprise. Anger. Hope. Expectations. Support.
Non-cooperation…

Can you imagine the importance of a silent moment in a song??

When Bryan Adams stops for a while along with music, before he goes
on in his husky voice…
….. Please forgive me. I can’t stop loving you!

Ever had those moments when you thought you were tired enough that
you reach for your bed after dinner.. but find yourself wide awake
looking at the roof of your room silently…

But you sure are ‘thinking’… those moments of self-talk are the
most important in our lives. Those moments when we listen to our own
hearts! Those promises… those decisions… those are the moments
when we make our destinies!

Next time you go silent… listen carefully to what your heart is
saying.. listen to its joy…listen to its pain.. listen to its
fears.. listen to its desires..

and Be in touch with your true self…

A special world for you and me
A special bond one cannot see
It wraps us up in its cocoon
And holds us fiercely in its womb.

Its fingers spread like fine spun gold
Gently nestling us to the fold
Like silken thread it holds us fast
Bonds like this are meant to last.

And though at times a thread may break
A new one forms in its wake
To bind us closer and keep us strong
In a special world, where we belong.

My love, I have tried with all my being
to grasp a form comparable to thine own,
but nothing seems worthy;

I know now why Shakespeare could not
compare his love to a summer’s day.
It would be a crime to denounce the beauty
of such a creature as thee,
to simply cast away the precision
God had placed in forging you.

Each facet of your being
whether it physical or spiritual
is an ensnarement
from which there is no release.
But I do not wish release.
I wish to stay entrapped forever.
With you for all eternity.
Our hearts, always as one.

f I could have just one wish,
I would wish to wake up everyday
to the sound of your breath on my neck,
the warmth of your lips on my cheek,
the touch of your fingers on my skin,
and the feel of your heart beating with mine...
Knowing that I could never find that feeling
with anyone other than you.