Thursday, November 18, 2010

How to Get Over Heartbreak.....???


1.Cry cry cry..clean your eyes out..Note: Guys, you are allowed to cry too. Forget about what mummy said. Do not hold back your tears, do not hold on to your emotions. This is 1 of the reasons why averagely, men die younger than women. You hold back too much!!

  • 2.Drink!! But please do not end up as an alcoholic.

  • 3.Yell!! Yell your lungs out. (Curse if you have to)

  • 4.Listen to loud music. Rock, heavy metal, techno, whatever but NOT love songs please.
    Note: Get your headphone on. Disturb only yourself.

  • 5.Force yourself OUT from your house. Go anywhere...
    Suggestion: If you are a guy, chill out with your 'brothers'. If you are a girl, hang out with your dear girl friends. Why? You are already in a mess. You do not need any additional mess sleeping with the wrong person or waking up on the streets.

  • 6.Done pouring out your emotions? Now, stop Victimizing 
    yourself. Get back on your feet. Drag yourself up if you have to.

  • 7.Get professional help. Recommendation, a psychologist.
    Note: Asians, forget about the general perceptions of a psychologist or seeing a psychologist. They are NOT TRUE!! You are NOT crazy seeking help from a psychologist. They are merely trained human being just to help you...





  • What is Love...................????????????

    What is the meaning of love?

    Most people who claim to love someone don’t really love them, because they don’t know what love actually is

    What is love NOT?
    Possessiveness is not love
    Jealousy is not love
    Lust is not love
    Fear is not love
    Keeping people all to yourself is not love
    Expecting something from someone is not love
    Real love is unconditional. All other “forms” of love are not really love. Most parents and kids don’t love each other, most people in relationships don’t love each other, most people on the planet never experience unconditional love in their entire lives… or at least it sure looks that way.
    To love someone unconditionally means that you love the person exactly as they are, exactly as they were before, and exactly as they will be in the future – because people change all the time, so if you love the person, you will love them even if they become something you disagree with. How many parents can say that about their kids? How many people can say that about their “lover”? Love is not about you or your pleasure or your amusement. It’s not about what you get out of it or what the other person can give to you. It’s not about having a trophy you can show off with and tell people “This is *MY* girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband/son/daughter/whatever”. You do not “own” anyone. It’s not about you feeling ‘proud’ to be with someone who always agrees with everything you say and do and never does anything you disagree with. Unconditional love means that the person can just live their life exactly as they choose and you will always be there for them no matter what.
    So, how does unconditional love fit in with relationships and marriage and sex and all that stuff the whole world keeps going crazy over? It doesn’t, really. It doesn’t “fit” in anywhere. Relationships are like trying to put love into a box and keep it there, except love is infinitely sized, and the box is… well, there is no box large enough. And a normal, conventional marriage is quite possibly the worst possible way to show someone how much you love them.
    Unconditional love is more of a spiritual thing. It’s not bound by physical things, like blood relations and the desire to procreate. It has nothing whatsoever to do with sex. Most people are in relationships because they’re horny and/or lonely, even if they genuinely think they love the other person. But if the person they “love” suddenly lost their “equipment” for whatever reason, would they still want to be with that person? Would they get jealous if the person they “love” wanted to spend time with other people as well? Relationships based on needs are not unconditional.
    In order to truly understand love, you must first forget everything you have ever learned about it from society and anyone else (including what I just said). You are the only person who can tell you what love is. The only reason I’m writing all this stuff is because people always try to fit “love” in with things like dating, relationships and marriage and all that. You can’t make any sense of it if you keep doing that. You have to get rid of everything you think you know firs

    Keep Moving Forward.......



    What does it take to move forward in life? One of the key things needed to move forward is the ability to focus. The mind must be clear about what it needs to focus on. There are times when it is critical to focus on what is taking place at that time. My advice is to focus on what is most important or that appears to be the priority. If you do not focus on what is most important; you could be in real trouble in the near or not to distance future.
    Another key point to moving forward in life is having the ability see success. If someone is unable to see success then they may never feel inspired to seek greater achievements in life. There must be inside the heart something that enables one to see success. If we look at most people who have done well moving forward in life; we will see that they all had the ability to see success.
    Well, if you have not watched the movie, “Meet the Robinsons” then do so. It is such a lovely movie.
    What I love about the movie is its message, which is: Keep moving forward. No matter how many times you fail, keep trying because eventually you’ll succeed. There’s even a quote at the end of the movie from Walt Disney himself that contains the phrase in it. [If you're the cynical type, don’t be so quick to dismiss the message as trite. Even if you’re not an animated film fan, check out the movie for a dose of inspiration.]
    The message is so simple and yet so profound. It’s easy for all of us to develop a bit of an inferiority complex as we struggle to find a career we love and pursue it. I experienced many failures myself as I was making my transition—from exploring lots of possibilities and feeling like none of them was the right one, to trying to create a financial plan for how to make it happen and not seeing a way out, to trying to be grateful for what I already had and feeling miserable instead.
    If your goal is precious, and it is, Walt Disney’s words are poignant, inspirational, and on point. Here’s what he said:
    “Around here, however, we don’t look backwards for very long. We keep moving forward, opening up new doors and doing new things… and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.”
    Life can hit hard. Sometimes you get knocked down when you don’t even see it coming. Some are cheap shots, some are glancing blows and some can bring you to your knees. When this happens, it’s not about how hard you get hit; it’s about how hard you can get hit, but still find the strength to keep moving forward. It’s about having the will to continue in spite of the obstacles.
    When you get hit, do you stay down? Or do you reach down somewhere deep inside of you and pull up the courage that lifts you back on your feet to keep moving forward? You do have a choice. Consider these Nine Ways to Keep Moving Forward when you are faced with this choice again.

    Forget Regret

    Leave your mistakes and regret in the past. They don’t define your value, then or now. When you stay in the past you become stuck and unable to move forward. We all have made mistakes with our job choices, friends and relationships. The consequences can hit us pretty hard. However, to begin learning how to put these experiences behind us – by letting them go, we can begin to live in the here and now. Give yourself the gift of forgiveness and keep moving forward.

    Learn from Failure

    Learning from failure and having regret are two separate things. Regret is an emotion; a feeling of disappointment along with a modest amount of shame or guilt. But to look back at a circumstance and figure out what went wrong gives you some very important information. This review allows you to evaluate what worked and what didn’t, and more importantly, why. Often when you are removed from a situation, you can look at it more objectively which will allow you to make better choices to keep moving forward.

    Ask for Help

    You are not alone. It may feel that way sometimes, but there are many people who would extend their hand and lift you up if asked. All you have to do is ask. Consider co-workers, neighbors, or your church. Often times we are afraid to ask because we don’t believe we are worthy to receive the help. Think about this: we are surrounded by millions and millions of people by design – for a purpose. A hand to grasp, a shoulder to cling, and a face to radiate hope can help you to keep moving forward.

    Believe You are Worthy

    Whatever your goal, your dream, or your desire, you are worthy of achieving it. The closer you get to it is when the enemy of you soul will begin putting doubt in your mind by playing the self-limiting tapes that say you are not worthy. Replace these old tapes with a newer one that contains the truth – you are worthy to have your heart’s true desire and to keep moving forward.

    Take 100% Responsibility

    Except in rare and unfortunate circumstances, you are responsible for the quality and condition of your life. Your career, your relationships and your happiness are all under your direct control. Sometimes we choose to do nothing when we get hit hard because it’s just easier and less painful that way. But the real pain is only deferred. You have to live with yourself. You have to live with the voice in your gut, your inner wisdowm, that says you gave up too soon or didn’t try hard enough. When you hear this inner voice speaking to you, it’s usually right. It’s you choice, then, to get up and keep moving forward.

    Know What You Want


    This isn’t about the how, only the what. In order to move forward in life, you need a firm foundation to step from. Understanding what and whereyou want to go in life will provide your vision and spirit – your foundation. The how will figure itself out when you know you want to keep moving forward.

    Trust

    There are no accidents without value. When you get hit hard and land on your back, look for the reasons and for the value in this. Open your heart and trust this happened for a reason. Perhaps it was to test your determination or to alert you to the fact you were on the wrong path. Either way, trust the experience is happening for a reason and be open to making adjustments in order to keep moving forward.

    Want it More

    How badly do you want it? How badly do you really want to achieve what you are working so hard to accomplish? When you get hit hard, you have an opportunity to answer this question. It’s one thing to say you want to do something, or to be something. But to walk through the pain; to get up and keep moving forward knowing there may be more pain ahead, is a test of your determination and resolve. When you find yourself getting back on your feet, you have indeed answered this question and there’s no doubt you will keep moving forward.

    Keep the Faith

    Faith: A strong belief in something without proof or evidence
    At the end of the day when you are weary from all of the effort and energy you have expended and you are sore and tired from being hit hard so many times, but the dream is not realized, the one thing that tells you to keep going; to get up tomorrow and to keep moving forward, is your faith. Honor this and cherish it. Faith is what makes you human. It gives you energy and hope. And if you let it, your faith will deliver you to wherever you want to go in life.
    I hope that helps you all.
    As you move forward in life, occasionally look ahead to your next horizon. The next challenge you see will give you the drive to keep moving forward. Looking forward will hone your ability to achieve success.
    Cheers!! and

    Keep moving forward.

    Silence..............................















    Have you ever experienced a moment in your life when you just ran out of words and you go…
                                            S i l e n t ???
    Let me assist you in recalling…

    …. the moment when you left your home for the first time and you look 
    back at your parents who are worried that their son/daughter are
    leaving them yet happy that their child took the first step towards
    independence.
    ….. the moment when the girl/boy you like most.. smiled back at you!
    You don’t say anything.. you just smile back..
    ….. the moment when you get better marks than you expected… those
    "numb" moments of ecstasy n surprise "is that true?"…
    ….. the moment when you are parting with your old friend(s) and the
    train has just started… and you are standing on the door of the
    wagon.. waving "bye-bye" with your heart beating fast…
    … .. the moment after the HR manager has just called you and told you,
    "You are through! Congrats!"
    ….. the moment when you sit alone in your room after having told
    everyone that you cleared that exam you prepared for 6 months!!
    You can go on remembering your "special" moments!
    I had always wondered why I never said anything to myself at those
    moments.. as if it was "understood"… happiness, joy, pain.. all
    feelings just flowed ceaselessly in the ‘years’ that passed in those
    flash moments!
    They say.. the best way to communicate is through "silence".
    Love. Joy. Grief. Surprise. Anger. Hope. Expectations. Support.
    Non-cooperation…
    Can you imagine the importance of a silent moment in a song??
    When Bryan Adams stops for a while along with music, before he goes
    on in his husky voice…
    ….. Please forgive me. I can’t stop loving you!
    Ever had those moments when you thought you were tired enough that
    you reach for your bed after dinner.. but find yourself wide awake
    looking at the roof of your room silently…
    But you sure are ‘thinking’… those moments of self-talk are the
    most important in our lives. Those moments when we listen to our own
    hearts! Those promises… those decisions… those are the moments
    when we make our destinies!
    Next time you go silent… listen carefully to what your heart is
    saying.. listen to its joy…listen to its pain.. listen to its
    fears.. listen to its desires..
    and Be in touch with your true self…