Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Little girl and her father were crossing a bridge.
The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter,
"Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river."
The little girl said, "No, Dad. You hold my hand."
"What's the difference?" Asked the puzzled father.
"There's a big difference," replied the little girl.
"If I hold your hand and something happens to me,
chances are that I may let your hand go.
But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens,
you will never let my hand go."
In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond.
So hold the hand of the person who loves you rather than expecting them to hold
yours...
This message is too short... but carries a lot of Feelings

Why people fall in love?

It is a mystery why we fall in love. It is a mystery how it
happens. It is a mystery when it comes. It is a mystery why
some love grows and it is a mystery why some love fails.

You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and
causes, but you will never do anymore that take the life out
of the experience. Just as life itself is more than the sum of
the bones and muscles and electrical impulses in the body,
love is more than the sum of the interests and attractions
and commonalities that two people share. And just as life
itself is a gift that comes and goes in its own time, so too, the
coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that
cannot be questioned in its ways.

Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life - the gift of
love will come to you in full flower. Take hold of it and
celebrate it in all inexpressible beauty. This is the dream we
all share. More often, it will come and take hold of you,
celebrate you for a brief moment, then move on.

When this happen to young people, they too often try to
grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a
gift that just as freely, moves away. When they fall out of
love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving,
they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather
than accepting the gift for what it was, then moving on.

They want answers where there are no answers. They
want to know what is wrong in them that makes the other
person no longer love them, or try to get their love to change,
thinking that if some small things were different, love would
bloom again. They blame their circumstances and say that if
they go far away and start a new life, their love will grow.

They try anything to give meaning to what has happened. But
there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they
accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery.

You need to know this about love, and accept it. You need to
treat what it brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in
love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with
yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't
choose to rest in the other person's heart.

If you find yourself someone in love with you but you don't
love him back, feel honored that love came and called at your
door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not
take advantage; do not cause pain. How you deal with love
is how you deal with yourself. All our hearts feel the same
pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another, and he falls in love with you,
and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it nor to
assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a
meaning. You will know in time.

Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All
you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it

comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing,
then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person
who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it
poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can.

There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long
without love, they understand love only as a need. They see
their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and
they begin to look at love as something that flows to them
rather than from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as
their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need.
They cease to be someone who generates love and instead
become someone who seeks love. They forget that the
secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to
grow only by giving it away.

Remember this and keep it to your heart. Love has its time, its
own season, its own reason for coming and going. You
cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can
only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it
comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or
from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and
there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and
always will be a mystery. BE GLAD THAT IT CAME TO LIVE
FOR A MOMENT IN YOUR LIFE.


If you keep you heart open, it will come again...

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

What I've Learned About Friendship..


  • I've learned that there are many good friends around, but true best friends are hard to come by.
  • I've learned that sometimes you love a best friend more than a boyfriend.
  • I've learned that a best friend is more important than a boyfriend.
  • I've learned that you can do something or nothing with a best friend and still have the best time.
  • I've learned that a true friendship has many memories, both good and bad, but all important.
  • I've learned that sometimes the most used part of a best friend is the shoulder you cry on, and the shoulder you are willing to lend.
  • I've learned that when a best friend is happy, you find yourself happy too, even when it has nothing to do with you.
  • I've learned that a best friend's family soon feels like your own.
  • I've learned that the only one who truly understands is a true friend.
  • I've learned that nothing ever sounds stupid, funny, or unbelievable to a best friend, and you never feel stupid saying whatever it is.
  • I've learned that sometimes it feels like a best friend is the only one who will ever care about you and think you are beautiful in your own way.
  • I've learned that you always have that something extra to give to a best friend in need, and can count on that in return.
  • I've learned that your heart is forever touched by a true friend, no matter how things end up.
  • I've learned that when your heart has been broken, a best friend is the best band-aid for it.
  • I've learned that a best friend will call you in the middle of the night to talk without thinking, and it's OK.
  • I've learned that in many cases, a hug and a kind word from a best friend is the only thing that helps get you through the day.
  • I've learned that a best friend would stick up for you no matter what the consequences are.
  • I've learned that best friends can sing at the top of their lungs and not worry about singing the wrong words or being out of tune.
  • I've learned that best friends stay up all night and on the phone for hours talking without even realizing it.
  • I've learned that a best friend can tell the difference between a silly crush, and more than that.
  • I've learned that sometimes a best friend is all you have.
  • I've learned that sometimes you wonder how she knew, but then you realize that's just how close you are.
  • I've learned that when you are true best friends, everyone else knows it.
  • I've learned that, most importantly of all, best friends will always be best friends, no matter what is happening in their lives, where they are, or what they are doing. A best friend is irreplaceable. This is the most important thing I could have ever been taught by a best friend.

FRIENDSHIP.........

"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born."

"Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art... It has no survival value; rather is one of those things that give value to survival."

"Friendship with oneself is all-important because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world."

"Friendship with oneself is all-important because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world."

"A friend will be there for you when things are good...but a TRUE friend will be there for you when things are good and also when things are very bad...and just when it feels like you will never smile again...she can put a smile on your face with just with a hug!"
"If you are going to gain anything in life, gain a friend, they will always be there, and that makes all the difference in the world."

"True friends are never apart, maybe in distance, but not in heart"

"True friendship is sitting together in silence and feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had."



Love is patient,
Love is kind.
It does not envy,
It does not boast,
It is not proud.
It is not rude,
It is not self-seeking,
It is not easily angered,
It keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres....